The 2014 No-Spank Challenge is a collaboration of over 25 peaceful, gentle parenting advocates and educators created to support, encourage and empower you with resources to help you learn how to guide your children and set boundaries without resorting to spanking, yelling, shaming, and other punitive parenting techniques. Below you will find links to blog posts, podcasts, workshops, research and other resources filled with real-life tools to help you parent your children peacefully, deal with your own overwhelming emotions (such as anger and guilt), and learn how to create a daily practice of intentional, peaceful parenting.
We hope you will reach out for support from other people who share your parenting goals. There are many peaceful parenting communities available on social media sites, blogs, and other sources. Find supportive like-minded parents near you on our Find Peaceful Parents forum, or find support virtually both on the Parenting Beyond Punishment Facebook page and in the communities of our NSC contributors. You can also seek more support through our contributor’s additional resources.
We also invite you to share your struggles and successes with us on Facebook Parenting Beyond Punishment and No Spank Challenge, and to take your journey deeper using the resources available through the NSC, including workshops, books, and individual parenting consultations.
Amy C. Bryant, EdS, LPC
Parenting Beyond Punishment
Wild Child Counseling, LLC
Play At Home Mom, LLC
Meet the contributors…
Jennifer Andersen is an unlikely convert from mainstream to gentle parenting. She planned to put her baby in his own room, alone, from his first night home from a hospital birth- no matter how much he cried for attention. Then she met her son, and everything changed. Now, she and her husband are committed to living respectfully and authentically with their two children. They share a massive family bed, are committed to unschooling (a type of homeschooling), and are constantly trying to override what they “should” do, so that they can do what is best for their family. Jennifer blogs about her family’s transition and child advocacy at OurMuddyBoots.com, LIVING! With Kids. The OMB Facebook community is thriving with knowledgeable, supportive, and informed parents who are also trying to connect more deeply with their children. You can also find Jennifer hanging out on Twitter , Pinterest and Google +.
Claire Battersby has always loved caring for young children. She’s on a compelling journey as a childcare provider from reactive and controling towards calm and co-operative. Learning about how children develop and react to the way we treat them really fascinates her. Claire is truly grateful for how much little ones have taught her about themselves, herself and life in general. Claire is the co-owner of the new blog Empowering Childhood, which inspires compassion, communication, co-operation and connection. Learn more on her Website and Facebook page.
Robbyn Peters Bennett, LMHC, CMHS is a psychotherapist, educator, and child advocate who specializes in the treatment of trauma-related mental health problems resulting from the effects of early childhood stress, abuse and neglect. She is the founder of StopSpanking.org, a non-profit dedicated to educating the public on the dangers of spanking. She is on the steering committee of The U.S. Alliance to End the Hitting of Children http://endhittingusa.org. Robbyn is currently producing a documentary, The Last Resort, about the cultural practice of spanking children. Learn more on her professional website: robbynpetersbennett.org and her child advocacy site: stopspanking.org
Leana Bowler is a God-loving, Earth-loving, mother of three adventurous daughters. She is a thinker of happy thoughts, who believes that hugs, humor, and humility are essential components of parenting. Her husband is her bearded prince charming. He is her kindred spirit, and because of him she blissful, balanced, and brave. She can be messy and awkward. She stumbles often. She smiles often. She prays often. She doesn’t always express herself in the most eloquent manner, but she values self-expression because it feels awesome to be who you are. She revels in the fact that motherhood is raw and beautiful. She’s learned to embrace the stretch-marks, the non-existent post breastfeeding boobs, the tired eyes, and every ripple on her skin. Her bodily flaws are the physical tributes to the amazing, imaginative little miracles that call her mommy. She writes because it breathes life into all her thoughts. She writes because she is compelled to tell the stories of these colorful, quirky, amazing individuals that she calls family. She writes because she enjoys sharing her mistakes, her mishaps, her embarrassing moments, and the wisdom she’s gained from all of them. Read more here: MommyBowler.
Amy C. Bryant, EdS, LPC is a therapist, educator, and child advocate. She founded Parenting Beyond Punishment to help parents who want to move out of punishment-based parenting and into a connection-centered approach to living with their children. Amy provides online parenting consultations worldwide and local in-home parenting consultations. Amy is also a contributing writer to Play At Home Mom, a blog designed to help parents connect with their children through play. You can learn more on her Website, Facebook Page, Twitter: @Not Punishment, Pinterest and Google+. She lives and plays with her daughter and husband in Atlanta.
Rebecca Eanes is a best-selling author, blogger, and the founder of Positive-parents.org. Her books include The Newbie’s Guide to Positive Parenting and a co-authored book, Positive Parenting in Action: The How-To Guide to Putting Positive Parenting Principles into Action in Early Childhood. She does not claim to be a parenting “expert” but writes parent-to-parent with the inspiring message of creating peaceful homes through positive parenting. Learn more on her Website Positive Parenting: Peace Begins At Home and Facebook page Positive Parenting: Toddlers and Beyond.
Dare Ellis is a libertarian mom with a small ‘l’ because she doesn’t like labels. She is the soon-to-be mother of two, a sometimes blogger, and believes that children should be treated exactly as anyone else is treated, regardless of age. As an Admin at The Badass Breastfeeder, she supports breastfeeding mothers, and continues to help other moms become reformed spankers. Find her blog at www.onetreenottwo.wordpress.com
Marwa Farouq is a mother and wife in a beautiful blended family with four kids, and the founder of Blossom Family. She is a specialist in family, youth development and parenting education, and has coached youth, parents & educators supporting healing & compassion in relationships. Marwa has a dream of one day living in a peaceful world, and after working with multiple social change projects & businesses, she came to the realize this kind of change starts in building peaceful homes. Marwa is a certified Family & Youth Coach from the World Coach Institute. She is also certified in youth counseling, through the Institute of counseling. She is an advocate of the Non-Violent Philosophy and has completed training of compassionate parenting (Parent Peer Leadership Program), with the NVC Academy. She is the author of Thoughts that don’t Rhyme. Learn more on her website: www.BlossomFamily.net Facebook: www.facebook.com/blossomfamilynvc Twitter: Marwa_farouq Pinterest: http://www.pinterest.com/marwafarouq7/ G+: firstname.lastname@example.org.
Jacqueline Green is the creator and host of the Great Parenting Show, founded in 2010. Over 125 of the world’s top experts have been on her show, talking about almost every parenting-related topic possible. The international GPS community of tens of thousands of parents, are all committed to getting the support and information they need to be the best parent possible, while enjoying the journey. She’s also the author of the upcoming book, Strong Enough to Stay: Why staying with your man may be the best thing you’ve ever done, AND the toughest!! Her message is one of profound hope, based on her personal journey, and those of thousands of parents with whom she’s worked. Learn more on her Website: http://greatparentingshow.com/aboutme/ and on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/GreatParentingShow
Sheena Hill, CBE, CPST, MFS, MAJE, is a homeschooling mom and child advocate with over 10 years of experience as a Certified Parent Education Specialist. As a social worker, she counseled families in the non-profit world for 8 years before going into private practice. As the founder and director of Parenting Works, she educates and empowers parents through group and private workshops and individual parent coaching. She designs and facilitates classes focusing on gentle discipline, healthy communication, and emotional intelligence. Through classes and private sessions, she supports and inspires parents to reach their full parenting potential by enabling them to be more responsive, respectful and consistent in their practices. Her enthusiastic approach to parent education keeps parents coming back. Aside from her ability to compose silly songs (entertaining and annoying her daughter), her super powers are helping families enhance their relationships and mitigate power struggles. You can learn more about her dynamic work on Facebook www.facebook.com/ParentingWorks and at the website http://parentingworks.weebly.com/.
Vicki Hoefle is a professional parent educator with over 20 years experience teaching parents, educators and caregivers how to raise respectful, responsible and resilient children. Hoefle combines her expertise in Adlerian Psychology and as an International Coaching Federation certified coach to bring parents Duct Tape Parenting, a sustainable and proactive parenting strategy that provides time-tested tools for harvesting a happy and peaceful family life. Her informative and highly engaging presentation style keeps her in demand as a speaker, facilitator and educator. Hoefle is a mother of six and lives in Middlebury, Vermont. For more information, visit www.vickihoefle.com or like her page on Facebook https://facebook.com/vickihhoefle.
Patricia Hope, Empowering Childhood. Patricia was a struggling single mum and however hard she tried, found herself yelling and spanking. Years of study and self development have now enabled her to empower other parents with easy and effective strategies to calm a stressful moment and long term solutions for a peaceful family life. Learn more about becoming a calm parent visit her Website: www.EmpoweringChildhood.co.uk Facebook https://www.facebook.com/EmpoweringChildhood Website www.Towards-Happiness.com
Ashley Kagan, Med MECD holds a double Masters Degree in Exceptional Student Education and Early Childhood Development. She was a teacher for 11 years, 8 years teaching children with autism and 3 years teaching pre-k in a Reggio-inspired preschool. Ashley is a major contributor at Parenting Beyond Punishment and is the founder of Play At Home Mom, a blog and Facebook page dedicated to helping parents connect more deeply with their children through play.
L.R.Knost: Best-selling parenting and children’s book author, L.R.Knost, is an independent child development researcher and founder and director of the advocacy and consulting group, Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources, as well as a monthly contributor to ‘The Natural Parent Magazine.” Books by L.R.Knost include Two Thousand Kisses a Day: Gentle Parenting Through the Ages and Stages, Whispers Through Time: Communication Through the Ages and Stages of Childhood, and The Gentle Parent: Positive, Practical, Effective Discipline, the first three books in the Little Hearts Handbook gentle parenting series, as well as her children’s books Petey’s Listening Ears, and the soon-to-be-released Grumpykins series for children ages two to six.
Rosie Lamphere is a Stay at Home Mom of 3 daughters ages 2-5. She holds a B.A. in Liberal Arts with disciplines in Social Work and Sociology. She is a co-owner and major contributor to Play At Home Mom, LLC, a blog and Facebook page dedicated to helping parents connect more deeply with their children through play.
Clémentine Malta-Bey is an intuitive psychotherapist and television co-host who is passionate about engaging mental health from a holistic, empowering, and positive perspective. Clémentine began her career in Chicago, Illinois in 2008 helping traumatized children and their families heal and develop secure attachment bonds. She is currently in private practice in Atlanta, Georgia, where she enjoys providing therapeutic services to children, adults, couples, and families who are seeking to expand the purpose, authenticity, connection, and joy in their lives. You can connect with Clémentine at WisdomAwakening.org, or watch her on “The Circle” by tuning in to AIBTV (check aibtv.com/thecircle for airtime’s). You can learn more about her practice on her website: WisdomAwakening.org
Tracy McConaghie is Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Registered Play Therapist/Supervisor and Certified Positive Discipline Lead Trainer. Tracy and her husband Andrew own McConaghie Family Counseling in Alpharetta, GA. She specializes in treating children with anxiety and explosive behavior, as well as helping families through divorce and providing parenting classes and parent coaching. Learn more at www.mcconaghiefamilycounseling.com and visit McConaghie Family Counseling on Facebook.
Jennifer McGrail is a full-time unschooling mom, a yoga teacher, and a writer. She lives in Phoenix with her husband, four kids, and an ever-growing variety of winged, scaled, and furry pets. She loves exploring in the desert, baking cupcakes, and a really good cup of coffee. Besides her faith and her family, her biggest passion in life is encouraging others to live more intentionally and respectfully with their children. You can find her writing about unschooling and gentle parenting on her website, The Path Less Taken at www.jennifermcgrail.com, on Twitter and Instagram as @blessdwith4, and on Facebook at www.facebook.com/thepathlesstakenblog.
Colby Pearce is a Clinical Psychologist living and working in Adelaide, South Australia. He is the owner and operator of Secure Start®, which is a child and family psychology practice where he provides psychological intervention services to children, teens and their caregivers. He also consults with parents and professionals regarding therapeutic and gentle care practices, trains aspiring psychologists and supervises practising psychologists. He is a published author, blogger, painter, gardener, general builder and F1 enthusiast. Most important of all, he is a husband and father. Learn more about Colby Pearce and his work here: Website, Blog, Twitter: @ColbyPearce, SecureStart on Facebook, Resilience in Children on Facebook, and Linked In.
Lori Petro, BS Ed., is a Speaker, Advocate & Parent Educator. She founded TEACH through Love as a vehicle to help families heal the cycle abuse and trauma through the relationship-building tools of empathy, compassionate communication and peaceful conflict resolution. As an adult with Asperger’s, Lori understands the demands of parenting kids with special needs and believes that by building strong bonds, we can cross the bridge to understanding the behaviors and needs of all kids. Lori is a sought-after speaker who consults privately with clients, teaches online and shares her insights and information in her weekly TEACHable Moments videos. Connect with Lori on Twitter: @TEACHthruLove, Facebook, Blog, and Website: http://www.teach-through-love.com.
Shirin Purnell of On The Fence is a mom to two young kids. She discovered Peaceful/Positive Parenting when her first child was 2 years old, and she needed to find an alternative to what she remembered from her own negative childhood. She wanted to break out of this violent cycle and create a different childhood for her kids, full of opportunities for a loving and respectful connection with their parents. It has been almost three years ago and she couldn’t be happier about the choices she made. At some point she had so much she wanted to share with the world to show the amazing results of Positive Parenting, that she started blogging about it. She shares bits and pieces from her personal experience, and the lessons she learned from other peaceful parenting resources. Learn more – Website: http://OnTheFenceAdvocacy.com FB page: http://Facebook.com/OnTheFenceAdvocacy Pinterest: http://Pinterest.com/OTFAdvocacy
Neca C. Smith, Ed.S., LPC, CAMS helps individuals reduce conflict and negativity in their lives so that they can focus on what matters – family, career, health and fun! Neca helps you handle difficult situations, reduce stress and achieve work/life balance in today’s fast-paced, connected world. She is an author, trainer, facilitator and coach with over 13 years of experience. Her background includes an M.S. and and Ed.S. in Professional Counseling, Licensed Professional Counselor, Certified Professional in Managing Workplace Conflict and Certified Anger Management Specialist. She is the President of AidevO People Consulting, LLC, a professional and personal growth and development firm The Be WELL Project, a personal growth coaching program. In addition, Neca is also a sought after speaker and media personality for conferences, magazines, radio, and television. Learn more via her website: www.necasmith.com Twitter: www.twitter.com/NecaSmith Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheBeWellProject
Andy Smithson is a Licensed Masters Social worker, psychotherapist, writer, speaker and most importantly husband and father of three energetic boys and a heart melting girl. Andy and his family live in Burley, Id. along the scenic Snake River. They enjoy the river in the summer and the mountains in the winter. Andy has worked with kids and families for years in counseling, parenting classes and seminars and providing in-home parent coaching. He loves to see families build powerful cycles of growth through TRU Parenting principles of Teaching, Relationship and Upgrading themselves. You can find Andy’s blog @, www.truparenting.net. Connect with him on Facebook and twitter. Download your FREE ebook from TRU Parenting at http://truparenting.net/products/.
Abby Theuring has a master’s degree in Social Work and worked with abused and neglected teenagers for 14 years before her son, Jack, was born. Upon the birth of her son she quit her job and refocused her passion for advocacy to breastfeeding and gentle parenting. Abby struggled to get started with breastfeeding and now hopes to empower mothers through blogging and public speaking to breastfeed, breastfeed in public and practice gentle parenting. The Badass Breastfeeder is a community that strives to inspire and empower parents through stories, photos and education. Abby’s blogs can be found at www.thebadassbreastfeeder.com and www.breastfeedingbasics.com. Facebook-https://www.facebook.com/TheBadassBreastfeeder. Twitter-https://twitter.com/BAbreastfeeder. Youtube-https://www.youtube.com/BadassBreastfeeder.
Dr. Shefali Tsabary is a Clinical Psychologist, Author, Speaker and Founder of Global Inner Disarmament (Global ID). Dr. Shefali integrates Western psychology and Eastern philosophy in her work. She is the author of: The Conscious Parent and Out of Control – two groundbreaking books on parenting. She is a regular contributor for The Huffington Post where she addresses key issues in raising healthier families. She has a private practice in NYC. Her new book: Out of Control – Why disciplining your child doesn’t work and what will addresses these issues in a pragmatic, solution-focused manner. For a trailer on her book, click here. Follow Shefali Tsabary on Twitter: www.twitter.com/DrShefali
Patty Wipfler was born, raised and educated in California, graduating from Occidental College in 1968, and is the mother of two sons. The focus of her work since 1974 has been teaching basic listening, parenting, and leadership skills to parents. She directed The School, a non-profit parent co-operative preschool in Palo Alto, and later directed Neighborhood Infant Toddler Center for Palo Alto Community Child Care. She has led over 400 residential weekend workshops for families and for leaders of parents in the U.S. and in 23 countries. In 1989, she founded the non-profit Parents Leadership Institute, which evolved into Hand in Hand Parenting. As Director, she has written 14 booklets, produced videotapes and audiotapes, and has written over 100 articles for Hand in Hand on the principles and benefits of Parenting by Connection. To date, Hand in Hand has sold over 500,000 of these booklets in English, Spanish, Chinese and Japanese. Patty Wipfler’s articles have been published in Mothering Magazine, the Bulletin of Zero to Three: National Center for Infants, Toddlers and Families, Child Welfare News, and in many local newsletters for parents. She has been a keynote speaker at Association for the Education of Young Children conventions in Chicago and Philadelphia, and has done workshops and trainings throughout California, and in Oregon, New Mexico, Texas, and Massachusetts, as well as in Beijing, China. Patty lives with her husband in Palo Alto, California. Learn more on her Website: http://www.handinhandparenting.org, Facebook Page and Twitter.