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Part 1: Setting the Stage for Success

Self-Compassion

Self-compassion is an important part of being a peaceful parent. It’s a way of accepting ourselves for who we are right now so that we can move toward becoming the parent we want to be. Without self-compassion we find ourselves stuck in guilt, regret, resentment and other emotions that prevent us from learning from our mistakes. Self-compassion allows us to accept ourselves as imperfect and  value the mistakes we make as opportunities to learn and do better the next time.

I encourage you to set an intention for self-compassion as you embark on this journey; to recognize that parenting is a challenge, and it is full of both love and fear, exhilaration and exhaustion, adventure and boredom…and so much more. You can choose to deny your emotions, which takes a lot of space and energy; or you can choose to acknowledge and accept your emotions, which gives you the space and energy you need to release those draining emotions and then engage peacefully with your children. Set an intention to offer yourself understanding in your moments of frustrations, and to offer yourself compassion along the journey.

Reflection, Intention, Connection

I invite you to spend a few minutes each day reflecting on and thinking about what you intentionally want to bring in to your relationship with your children. Then set an intention and practice peaceful parenting while connecting with your children in positive ways (through play, reading, art, music, games, etc.). I usually reflect on my day when I go to bed, then set an intention for the next day. For me this usually means setting an intention to be more present if I was particularly distracted; to play more; to spend more time listening and less time speaking; to turn off my phone; and to spend more time inviting my daughter to collaborate rather than taking sole responsibility for making every action and decision myself.


 

Part 2: Podcasts, Workshops, Videos and Blog Posts

 

Getting Started on Your Gentle Journey
by LR Knost, Little Hearts/Gentle Parenting Resources

This workshop will help you set your parenting goals, identify specific parenting problems, and target practical solutions to help you along on your journey to gentle parenting.

We Can Stop Spanking
Free Podcast (1 hour)

Robbyn Peters Bennet (StopSpanking.org) and Patty Wipfler (Hand in Hand Parenting) discuss how to stop spanking.

This Hurts Me More Than It Hurts You
by Rebecca Eanes, Positive-Parents.Org

4 Tip for Handling Public Meltdowns
by Lori Petro, TEACH Through Love

 

5 Heart-Centered Practices for Managing Anger
by Lori Petro, TEACH Through Love

 

What to Do when your Child Won’t Stop Hitting the Cat
by Lori Petro, TEACH Through Love

Modeling Peaceful Conflict Resolution (4 min VIDEO)
by Lori Petro, TEACH Through Love

Why Everything We Know About Discipline is Wrong
by Dr. Shefali Tsabary:

Conscious Parenting: Shefali Tsabary (11 min VIDEO)
by Dr. Shefali Tsabary

Do Consequences Work?
by Hand In Hand (Podcast: 1:08:45)

Alternatives to Spanking
by Rebecca Eanes

I Was Spanked & I Turned Out OK
Video by StopSpanking.Org

Instead of Spanking
by Jennifer McGrail

How and Why Parents Stopped Spanking
by Jennifer Andersen

What’s the Problem with Spanking?
by “Hand In Hand”

Setting Limits Without Saying Time Out
by “Hand in Hand” (Podcast: 1:03:49)

Managing Our Own Emotions
by Colby Pearce

How to Stop Your Kids from Triggering Your Anger
by Patricia Hope (video: 14 minutes)

How to Really Release Anger
by Patricia Hope (video: 2 minutes)

A surprisingly Effective Alternative to Punishment
by Claire Battersby

The 5 Second Calming Technique
by Patricia Hope (video: 2 minutes)

What Is Your Anger Syle
by Robbyn Peters Bennett

Recognizing Your Anger Triggers
by Neca Smith (17 minute podcast)

Work/Life Blend Checklist
by Neca Smith

And So We Try A Little Harder
by Dare Ellis

Gentle Parenting as a Journey Not a Destination
by Abby Theuring

Spanking: What Difference Does It Make?
by Vicki Hoefl

Skirt the Struggle, Kindle the Connection: How to Unlock the Gifts of Resistance
By Clémentine Malta-Bey

What To Do When You Don’t Know What To Do
by Andy Smithson

Help for Homework Hassles
by Tracy McConaghie

Flower Babies
by Leana Bowler

Why Punishment is NOT Okay
by Marwa Farouq

What To Do After You Lose It
By Sheena Hill

Dealing with Your Own Big Emotions About Spanking
by Sheena Hill

Today we encourage you to make the commitment not to spank, yell at, or shame
your children as a form of discipline. You can now utilize the tools and resources
you gain from the No-Spank Challenge to parent from a place of love and respect.

Click HERE to download the No-Spank Commitment

 

 

Bonus Interview!

Are permissive parents raising spoiled brats?
(30-minute Interview)

Listen in as Robbyn Peters Bennett interviews Alfie Kohn, author of “The Myth of the Spoiled Child.”

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Be sure to visit our No-Spank Challenge Resource Page to find additional workshops and books from our NSC contributors to help you deepen your peaceful parenting journey.

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