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What is parenting beyond punishment?

Parenting beyond punishment is a holistic and collaborative approach to raising children and nurturing relationships. It encourages parents to choose non-punitive, neurodevelopmentally appropriate responses aligned with each child's cognitive, developmental, emotional, social and sensory needs.

Parenting beyond punishment is about building a strong parent-child relationship based on mutual love, trust, and respect. Parents guide children by modeling empathy and focusing on cooperative solutions that meet everyone’s needs. Rather than trying to control children's behavior with bribes, yelling, and punishments, peaceful parenting families experience more joy by

  • guiding versus controlling
  • listening versus assuming
  • connecting versus punishing
  • encouraging versus demanding
  • responding versus reacting

We all need support as we nurture our child's strengths and our own!

Why choose peaceful parenting?

Children raised in homes where they are loved and accepted unconditionally become resilient, successful adults. Likewise, adults who guide children peacefully heal their own early experiences of hurt, and grow in compassion and resilience themselves. Peaceful parenting focuses on building relationships and guiding children with a view toward long-term parenting goals that nurture children's...

  • Compassion
  • Critical thinking
  • Emotionally regulation
  • Intrinsic motivation
  • Conflict resolution skills
  • Resiliency
  • Respect of self and others
  • Responsibility

How does peaceful parenting work?
As a peaceful parent, the focus is on helping your children discover solutions to problems, rather than punishing them for problems that arise. Children have the opportunity to learn from their mistakes, rather than being punished for their mistakes and left wondering what they can do differently the next time.


Who benefits from peaceful parenting?
Peaceful parenting principles benefit people of all ages and relationships. Interacting with others in respectful, accepting and cooperative ways leads to finding solutions that work for everyone, including spouses, family, friends, neighbors, educators, and colleagues!